How to develop a psychological sunshine kids?

First, the ability to train the child alone Psychologists say that security is not dependent on a sense of passion and if a child needs a stable emotional ties , he also needs to learn to be alone , for example, let him stay in a safe room. Children a sense of security , not necessarily parents always present , even if he can not see you that his heart will know you are there. Second, the child must meet the degree To formulate some artificial boundaries , can not meet the requirements of the child unconditionally . Another premise can feel good , and is able to withstand a child 's life, the inevitable frustration and disappointment . Only when the child understand a truth that does not depend on something to get his desires , but on his ability , he can get the full happy heart. The sooner kids understand this, the less his pain. Certainly do not always meet the child's desire for the first time . The correct approach is to delay some of the . For example , the child is hungry, let him wait a few minutes . Do not give in to all the requirements of the child. Some children refuse his request would be more help to get the spirit of peace. Accepted in the family of this " unhappy reality" training , the child will have sufficient mental capacity to face future setbacks in life . Third, the face of his flaws If the child and other children different, such as a child too fat , the shape of the ear problem , or very extreme personality and behavior , parents must not deny these facts, but actively discuss with him , looking for solutions, or accept the reality. In this regard, the expert is the best way to go , because the child will generally experts ( such as doctors ) words seriously. Fourth . Let him do Let the children do whatever things early , in the future he will be more proactive in doing things . Do not over do things for their children , speak for the child , for the child to make decisions , to pre-empt before you can think about it, maybe the kids can do it yourself . Do not say : "You can not, you can not do this thing ! " Let the children " epistemic ." Sometimes adults forbid children to do something just because "he did not do ." If things bag manufacturer are not dangerous , they let the children try . Fifth, let the children open their hearts is the ability to communicate with people , the heart of the idea say it is a capability 14 -year-old boy , his father needs proper guidance , proactive and timely to speak their mind , then, will avoid making some of the dark things that are not controlled in time, to avoid , he will be more terrible continue. Happiness is a capacity, so he could see the good in life , the positive side . On the bad stuff it, you can also actively to face. Positive words to say : ! " ? 'm Glad we're together , do not you ," "We 're so lucky ' ." Do not be sad, next time we will do better " in children 8 years ago, if not properly a happy sun mother, then the child will be under 12 years of her mother 's shadow emerges in his body . Therefore , at this time , we must not think that their child is just a child, is fickle , but do not think that will grow up good , in fact, have a serious dark in this family , should not stop with the guidance, grew only more serious and terror. Sixth, we must learn to respect others No matter what the identity of the parents , regardless of what people around the identity of the child must learn to respect others , no identity difference. Perhaps my father's friend , perhaps her mother's colleagues , perhaps the father of the driver , perhaps in front of the school watchman , etc. These and his bag factory unrelated people, given to him , he must be grateful.