How to improve yourself every day?

Some people believe that if we went through the pain, the key moment or even cruel requirements of our own, we will achieve greater success, get things done better.

The therapist said: yourself will only lead to depression and anxiety, when we are kind to ourselves, we can more clearly see their own and healthy way, take action.

1.In the morning to set an intention.

Intention to be able to act on our values, give us the meaning of life. For example, "today I will really listen, when people talk to me. Help you will care more about who you are, your position and care, it makes you feel better, converted to treat ourselves and others."

2.Be aware of your thoughts.

Please note that your automatic negative thoughts, and try to replace them with neutral or positive thoughts, Kogan says. She shared this example: are you aware that you have made a mistake, these phrases appear naturally in your mouth: "Oh, I'm so stupid," or "I screwed up again."

3.Give yourself permission to change your mind.

"Yesterday and today is different, different than when you want something," Clarke said: "this could include the big change.

For example, you are always the counselor worked with victims of trauma, to present their own work and explore other client access. She said, you are a stay-at-home mom, realize you miss your work, give yourself permission to study child care options,

Or it may include a smaller change, such as modifying your daily work or play a different way to move your body (because you're tired of the gym or your training has begun to feel the punitive).

4.Say: yes.

"Treat themselves may say is so simple and radical, invited to do from a friend, impulse, nails or discard your to-do list on a Saturday bag manufacturer afternoon," psychotherapy "says morality.

5.Say no.

Say good time not is when you find yourself feeling dissatisfied, Mr Eder said. Of course, for many of us that is not easy. It is especially difficult for women "who have been taught to impress others is one of their most important work"

You may be worried that said not unkind. However, not only to the good and. As the carat said, "mercy needs about what we can give to others and we want to give something to someone, and the actual give honesty".

6.Check your mood.

Spend some time in your day, exploring your feelings. Taiwan will be known as the "put your sentiment."

7.Find and create moments of peace.

Psychotherapist Kogan said: "good also means looking for quiet condition. Note the swaying trees, your pet cat, or after a busy day walking behind you dog. "

Once again, good to treat themselves may have been difficult. It may not feel natural and familiar. In the long term treatment of themselves and of bag factory their kindness, you deserve to be treated yourself to start the first step.