From now on, as your parents, should not
only attach importance to cultivate children's emotional intelligence, but also
learn to become a high EQ parents.
The critical period is 3-12 years old
children EQ cultivation. We used to think, a person can achieve success in
life, is mainly depend on the level of intelligence, that is, a high IQ, the
more likely to be successful. But now it is generally accepted among
psychologists, a person can be successful not only rely on IQ, but also depends
on the emotional quotient, EQ influence even more than iq.
1, EQ
Emotion quotient (EmotionQuo-tient) of EQ
is the non intellectual factors of emotional quotient, is what we usually say,
it includes self-awareness, emotional management, self motivation,
understanding of others and social interaction. In evaluating the level of EQ,
will generally be divided into specific "confidence",
"love", "independence", "competition
consciousness", "optimism", "honesty",
"communication and cooperation", "willpower",
"target" of the nine.
Long term since, people put the
relationship between success and intellectual factors absolutely, make on the
children's entire education is aimed at the intellectual education. However, we
found that in many successful cases, they have some common characteristics of
non intelligence factors, such as self aware, emotional stability and refuse to
be cowed or submit the courage, these common quality is Eq.
Modern psychology research shows, a man of
success is 80% EQ, IQ accounted for only 20%.
2, efforts to improve the ability of EQ
High EQ from why and come? Were you born
with it?
Great intelligence and genetic
relationship, but it is EQ is mainly acquired through training. 3-12 years of
age is the key period of EQ training. EQ education can affect a child's life.
Psychologists have found in the follow-up survey after the critical period,
usually formal EQ training children in learning achievement, interpersonal bag manufacturer relationship and future
work performance and marital status and so on, are better than those received
special training in children. EQ education can not only promote the children
grades improved, more important is to contribute to the formation of character
optimistic self-confident. An optimistic and confident boy is afraid of
failure, is active and creative, with success and happiness ability. This is
the real children can enjoy a lifetime of wealth!
3, EQ and IQ link
Although the EQ concept arises from the
reflection of IQ, but instead of antonyms, EQ is not IQ, both in concept and in
reality are complementary and mutually reinforcing. Barber professor of Duke
University said: "if a man in two aspects intellectual and social emotions
very well, so he do not think the success is very difficult."
In the growth of children, although the
intellectual factors as the operating system all the time play a role, but the
non intelligence factors that EQ is often at critical moments plays a decisive
role in!
People with high EQ can be their own
limited talent into full play, Roosevelt is a typical example. Roosevelt's
"general intelligence, but charismatic personality". The reason he
can become president of the United States, to lead the United States out of the
economic depression, become a real winner in the Second World War, this and he
actively optimistic character has a great relationship. He is sincere, strong,
full of the milk of human kindness. In the Roosevelt success in the process of
emotional factors play a bag factory
very typical role. The ability of EQ on him by the near perfect embodiment.
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