How to be a good dad, including
communication, commitment, identity, intimacy and trust this problem. To find
our men and their loved ones along problems. They hope the children happy, successful,
but they often lack the skills and the ability to achieve such goals.
Be good at expressing their feelings,
emotions can be vulnerable
Traditionally, the father is the
breadwinner, is to protect the family. As a father, to integrate into the life
of the child, just start from the daily education. This is the way children
learn from scratch. However, a closer interaction will bring strong feelings,
may be positive, there may be negative, which is a surprise. Dad needs from
their wife, friends get support, to remain open, emotional demands to always
achieve the parenting. This makes the children feel more intimate and father,
think you can open your heart to his father.
Listening, empathy
Men often think that their role is to
provide advice and wisdom. When they can provide these, really great. However,
good parenting skills often need to listen, do not need to answer. Empathy is a
kind of to verify our speculation communication skills by imagining their
feelings. Treat the child (to other people is also), this is a great way to
communicate, in your children learn to speak before, you can start to
communicate this way. A lot of my father often to listen to mistakenly believe
that the passive acceptance of information, so there is no well established a
close relationship with the child.
A physical sign of affection
Influenced by the society, fathers to
express feelings have a wrong idea with limb, especially for the son, because
they think it is the embodiment of weak character, this concept is wrong. There
is more evidence that, things are on the bag
manufacturer contrary. Psychologists and historians, Lloyd DeMoss points
out, aggressive boys and impulse control, more is due to lack of gentle
guidance, lack of physical contact, and they lack the whisper teachings in
infancy, and not because of testosterone (boy and girl childhood testosterone
is the same reason). Therefore, the boy and the girl, not self comfort.
Fathers, to embrace to kiss your children, no matter how many no matter how
long, it doesn't matter, as long as they enjoy the close.
Don't control
If you are a qualified parents, your
children are ultimately may be away from home, living independently. This is
not happening right away. Many children, even after high school, also can go
home for a period of time, during which strive to become independent. The male
principle, control is very important on the one hand, so a lot of father can
not afford to abandon the habit, not trust their children, feel very lost in
the process of independent in children. In the children gradually become
independent, you can still continue to act as a guide, as a loving father, with
respect, often ask, want to listen to his thoughts and feeling, want to have a
look how was his life. Believe it or not, the child like this "after
graduation" along mode very. In the course of time, this allows you and
their friendship more mature.
Finally, respect your spouse
Remember, to be a good father, usually
needs a mother with the. For generations, physically and emotionally, is a
female bear the heavy responsibility of rearing, they work hard, but do not get
the respect they deserve. When you want to be a good father, remember to your
spouse that respect, paid tribute to feminism and gender equality. These
children will learn to Thanksgiving, and the attitude of respect, in the
process of bag factory growing up, they
will always remember this attitude.
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