2015年3月25日星期三

A good father is how to train a child?



How to be a good dad, including communication, commitment, identity, intimacy and trust this problem. To find our men and their loved ones along problems. They hope the children happy, successful, but they often lack the skills and the ability to achieve such goals.


Be good at expressing their feelings, emotions can be vulnerable
Traditionally, the father is the breadwinner, is to protect the family. As a father, to integrate into the life of the child, just start from the daily education. This is the way children learn from scratch. However, a closer interaction will bring strong feelings, may be positive, there may be negative, which is a surprise. Dad needs from their wife, friends get support, to remain open, emotional demands to always achieve the parenting. This makes the children feel more intimate and father, think you can open your heart to his father.

Listening, empathy
Men often think that their role is to provide advice and wisdom. When they can provide these, really great. However, good parenting skills often need to listen, do not need to answer. Empathy is a kind of to verify our speculation communication skills by imagining their feelings. Treat the child (to other people is also), this is a great way to communicate, in your children learn to speak before, you can start to communicate this way. A lot of my father often to listen to mistakenly believe that the passive acceptance of information, so there is no well established a close relationship with the child.

A physical sign of affection
Influenced by the society, fathers to express feelings have a wrong idea with limb, especially for the son, because they think it is the embodiment of weak character, this concept is wrong. There is more evidence that, things are on the bag manufacturer contrary. Psychologists and historians, Lloyd DeMoss points out, aggressive boys and impulse control, more is due to lack of gentle guidance, lack of physical contact, and they lack the whisper teachings in infancy, and not because of testosterone (boy and girl childhood testosterone is the same reason). Therefore, the boy and the girl, not self comfort. Fathers, to embrace to kiss your children, no matter how many no matter how long, it doesn't matter, as long as they enjoy the close.

Don't control
If you are a qualified parents, your children are ultimately may be away from home, living independently. This is not happening right away. Many children, even after high school, also can go home for a period of time, during which strive to become independent. The male principle, control is very important on the one hand, so a lot of father can not afford to abandon the habit, not trust their children, feel very lost in the process of independent in children. In the children gradually become independent, you can still continue to act as a guide, as a loving father, with respect, often ask, want to listen to his thoughts and feeling, want to have a look how was his life. Believe it or not, the child like this "after graduation" along mode very. In the course of time, this allows you and their friendship more mature.

Finally, respect your spouse
Remember, to be a good father, usually needs a mother with the. For generations, physically and emotionally, is a female bear the heavy responsibility of rearing, they work hard, but do not get the respect they deserve. When you want to be a good father, remember to your spouse that respect, paid tribute to feminism and gender equality. These children will learn to Thanksgiving, and the attitude of respect, in the process of bag factory growing up, they will always remember this attitude.

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