How to draw closer to strangers?

If you are engaged in professional sales , reporters , police, and other such negotiators need to quickly establish relationships with strangers and start conversations career , and that some of the following conversation skills will be able to help you ! Interpersonal relationships psychologist about sums up the four steps that will help you quickly eliminate each other wariness , winning each impression.

1.To find a common topic If you interview the person was a technical manager of the company , but he was interested in amateur country music , then you do some preparation work for this topic, understand the characteristics of his favorite country singer , chat to you all a great help , he will feel you're like a bosom friend , the distance between the two sides will instantly narrow . When chatting with no ambition, relaxed, not aggressive alert will let the other to relax , you generate intimacy . Again , you have to visit the customer is an old lady , her very own pet cat , then you start chatting from cats, you will be able to quickly find a common topic for you to eliminate her wary . 2.To avoid sensitive topics If you ask a stranger how to look premarital sex , he will think you are very abrupt, even if the answer is not necessarily true of the idea . When you have to mention some of the other side the issue of conflict , the best way is to change a problem situation . For example, " If two people fell in love, in love have sex before marriage , you have to see how ? " Respondents may be more willing to open their hearts to say the truth . According to the principles of psychological projection , he talked about Eighty per cent of their views on premarital sex . When you want to convince someone , it is best not to put your goal the bag factory easily exposed in front of others, they have a mental preparedness . When a person feels that they have been peeping , or is threatened , the desire for self- protection will become very strong , you do not expect to hear the truth . 3.Diversionary conversation skills Sometimes, in order to prevent the other side of the contradiction, we need to shift to other topics and issues related to the purpose . For example, you tried to persuade a person to quit your company , ask him are willing apparently quite silly . You can ask him: " your company , how many people are generally three years seniority salary ah " and then told him that this level of income is what happens in your company , so conversation can effectively reduce each other's defense . You will get the information they want , until you decide to persuade him, your words will be more convincing. 4.Let the other techniques to tell the truth If you are an interviewer , when you ask the interviewer : " ? If a person like you to do the same thing , wages twice as high than you , you will think ," the interviewer says about 80% lies . However, if you change the question : " ? If a person like you to do the same thing , when wages twice as high than you , what you use to adjust their mentality ," answered the interviewer will be exposed to more realistic the idea , because people bag factory used to solve the problem for him in solving problems .