Interpersonal overcome psychological barriers

We often mirror to practice speaking , but really to reality, or to speak is not continuous, felt no particular quality , which is how it happened , Xiao Bian today to tell you how to overcome the psychological barrier contacts .

Learn the correct psychological implications To overcome the obstacles to the opposite sex , courageous action is very important. Of course , you will say , I just stayed with the opposite sex will be very nervous , talking old stuttered . This is actually a psychological tension at play , at this moment correctly it is very important psychological implications . Under normal circumstances, we give ourselves the psychological implications of " Do not be nervous , do not be nervous , to calm down ," However, this would imply that the first " Do not be nervous ," but just the opposite way , make yourself more nervous. Because the tension is actually a normal and healthy emotion , when humans accept a new , challenging things to generate tension, feeling of pressure is normal. Our psychological implications should be consistent with their own emotions, should not be compared against the repressive or implied . Only you know the correct tension and accept it , is the best method of adjustment . So do not imply that he " do not be nervous ," the right psychological implications should be telling yourself: I am now doing something for me is not a very easy thing , tension is normal. Acceptance emotional moment , and then gradually relax. Exchanges of skills At the time with the opposite sex , emotional relaxation is very important . As the saying goes , a woman should have the temperament , the men have gas field. This gas field is not only reflected in the confidence and courage , but also in exchanges give people an easy and safe atmosphere . For men are not good with the opposite sex , the first thing to stay relaxed emotional . At least not easily find your anxiety people feel when they talk , blush tremor or stutter so let ineffective. Second, to have self-confidence, learn to appreciate themselves. If you start to self-denial , self- will "reflects " a lot of negative emotions , can not help but feel nervous, scared , so helpless , language regardless of times , even in the old feel that others hate myself. If you are such a person , you have to immediately adjust . If your faith is relatively tenuous , you can try to find their own on-site temporary advantage over five , which is relatively quick and practical way . This method takes advantage of the people's " first effect ", that in interpersonal relationships , we will attach great importance to information began to come into contact with ( including appearance , language, demeanor , etc. ) , as to the information that follows becomes less important . If you can give yourself strengthen confidence in a short time , at least that bag factory moment appears to be very confident .